I had the pleasure of connecting with V.J. Stanley, author of an eye opening book called Stop the Tsunami in Youth Sports and representative of sport consulting service, The Frozen Shorts Training Method. He's in demand as a guest speaker and has penned some insightful articles including the 5 Myths of Playing Elite Travel. Check out his blog and check out his views.
5 Myths about playing “ELITE” travel youth sports:
by V.J. Stanley
The Money Myth
Because you pay a lot of money, you believe your child’s athletic ability has a quantitative value. Oh boy! I have heard this comment in many forms over and over. People brag about how much money they have spent on their child’s youth sports experience. I have heard parents brag/complain about how whipped they are from the brutal schedule their child has in youth sports and how far they had to travel in separate cars last weekend. Parents bragging about how many times they have visited their child’s Orthopedic surgeon or personal trainer. I have heard parents say “they got cut” from a team “My son signed his first contract to play junior hockey. (Even though they paid $10,000 to play on that team). I have seen children go play on an “elite academy team” with their families paying thousands of dollars and bragging about it only to hear that they regretted the decision when no scholarship offered ever appears.
There is no correlation to the money you spend on your child’s athletic “elite” travel team and their ability to play at a higher level. You can’t buy talent. If this was true, how do poor kids reach their athletic peak? Think of this example. Your child has a cold. You take her to the Pediatrician and they give you a prescription for some medicine. You are done. You are not sent to a specialist and pay more money are you? You go to a specialist to get special results. It’s just a common cold for a common child. What if this is not a special situation? You would be spending and wasting money needlessly. Then wouldn’t you get frustrated when you did not get special results? Over and over again we hear the disappointment in the end game of this monetary path. The money spent far outweighs the money the families receive in scholarship. There is a tangible hangover to this paradigm. We see it every day.
On our website frozenshorts.com we have a form to fill out that will tell you what it cost per hour for your child to play elite travel sports for a weekend. The cost, about $230.000 an hour should amaze you!
The One Sport Edge Myth
Your child should play one sport year round to get an athletic scholarship. One sport year round is needed to make your child a better athlete. Really? Let’s take a look at the reasons this is happening. There are many many children playing one sport year round. It certainly is a paradigm that has taken hold and grown over the last thirty years. More and more youth sports organizations, including USA Soccer, adhere to this policy of having children commit to this level of participation. They actually ask for the family to submit a calendar of their “outside” activities and make sure that the parents know that their child, if he or she does not want to fall behind, needs to make this commitment to a year round “training” program. It is also inferred by some of these coaches that failure to make this level of commitment will cause the child to be benched. Interestingly though, it is never the star player that receives this sort of demand. Excuses are commonly made for this player.
“Mandatory” camps are held during the “off” season. While not being exactly mandatory, it is made clear you better attend if you want to keep your spot. Families are told that the team must stay together and play together if they want to win. It becomes a partnership with the parents and the children, a “lifestyle” I am told.
I would much rather be home, with a home cooked meal. My family eats together 6 times a week and I am confident it is a major reason we are such a close knit family. Plus it would save a lot of money.
Let's insert an interesting fact hare. ALMOST all these teams and organizations speak this mantra and yet many of them don’t win as much as they would lead you to believe with the importance they put on winning. Oh sure if you play enough games, go to enough tournaments you will eventually win or get “close,” thus providing the impetus to play fewer kids and to go out and recruit better players. Few parents realize when this is happening that their child may be losing playing time to the new kid.
AND this new kid, the new “chosen one” comes
in and is given ‘cart
blanch” and special treatment by the coach on many occasions, thus undermining
the team concept and the mantra that we must stick together and play together.
Sometimes I hear that the parents allow this because the children really “love” the sport and the parents are letting their children “take this as far as they can.” I LOVE ice cream. But I can’t eat it every day, it’s not healthy for me.) Other times I hear that the “pros” do it this way so should I. The athletic scholarship mantra is repeated where this child got a scholarship playing one sport year round. My kid is as good or close so why not, more is better. BUT IS IT? Let’s look at the science, psychology and data. First there are two to eight times more injuries for those who play one sport year round. Health, according to Dr. James Andrews considered being the TOP Orthopeadic sports surgeon in the country says the most important thing for an athlete’s success at each level, is their health. Next, children change their mind all the time. So having them do something, anything year round, is against their nature and will begin to wear on them and they won’t continue to grow and benefit. It’s called the law of diminishing returns. That may initially want to play the sport year round. They may even enjoy it. But soon, it will wear on them. They are kids, and kids want to do different things. They will continue on to please their parents and avoid the stigma of quitting, but then injurious start to pop up and their bodies and minds tell them that they need rest and soon you have a child not having any fun.
Lastly the drive for athletic scholarships or a pro career is not dependent on one sport year round according to professional teams. The
twins look for multi sport athletes.
Their top prospect, Byron Buxton, and the #1 prospect in Minnesota ALL of minor league baseball was a basketball
star in high school also. Three out of the four quarterbacks in this 2013 AFC and NFC championship game were drafted by
MLB teams. And Peyton Manning, the one
quarterback who wasn’t drafted, played shortstop in high school through his
senior year and continued to play baseball in the summer. Ryan Callahan,
captain of the New York Rangers played soccer growing up and advocates time
away from hockey in an interview with me at frozenshorts.com. Brian Gionta,
captain of the Montreal Canadiens takes three months off from skating after
every season. See his interview also, at frozenshorts.com.
Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Abby Wambach, considered to be the top female soccer player in the world, was a high school basketball star. Besides, doing something year round for 20 hours a week is considered a job.
The Elite or Bust Myth
Your team and the kids who play on that team benefit by playing other “elite” teams more than playing recreation level. Now there are some truly elite teams. The national team, a major junior team, etc. I believe that a truly elite team should be sending most if not all of its players to a Division 1 program. I have watched over 200 of the so called “elite” teams play and to say that it is much better than a recreational team is true in most cases, but hardly fits the definition of elite.Let’s be clear here. Most teams are only elite because someone put a title on it. In fact most elite teams consist of a group of kids whose parents agreed to pay an outrageous fee for your participation on this team. The members of this team were picked from a pool of participants that excluded anyone who could not afford to pay the fee and or did not want to give up everything else they were doing in that time frame to play on this team. The league in which you play has the same criteria as you do. In these criteria there is no way you can expect true elite completion.
Most recreation level youth sports are not as good as “elite” level because of desire. I have watched many of them, well over a 100, and I can say that just like elite there are a couple of kids who stand out, a couple that aren't very good and the rest are about the same talent level. You could certainly make a case that you could switch some kids from either team and not see much of a difference in either teams play.
Being around children we all know that they change their minds all the time, daily, hourly, sometimes minute by minute in what they want to do. In this case, pushing a child to play on a team they don’t want to inhibit their fun and quality of participation. I have seen on many teams, before, during, and after games a disgust, lack of enthusiasm, and disinterest from many children being pushed to play at this so called elite level.
Also, since children don’t fully develop physically until they are in their early to mid twenties, and mentally even a bit later. However, and research is starting to come out , that being a great teammate far outweighs the advantage or perceived advantage of playing with a group of kids whose parents “paid to play.” I have talked to many kids who passed up playing foe their high school and I will tell you that most. Publicly, say they wouldn’t change what they did. But behind the scenes, and in growing numbers, kids are either being asked to play, and say no, are going back to their high school teams, and quietly to, some family and close friends are regretting their decision to play elite sports.
You see, there are only so many spots on college teams and they are getting filled by a global pool of talent. This talent comes from all sorts of places and teams. While it is true that some college coaches only recruit form the pedigree tree, many are looking for multi sport athletes, that are really great teammates and high quality character people first and foremost.
The Showcase Scholarship Myth
Showcases are a big step towards your scholarship goal. Here is my definition of a showcase. An elite, truly elite, program sends out specific individual invitations for you to attend. The event is only for children above the age of 15. The coaches just let the kids play, minimal instruction. The parents of these children playing pay a nominal fee. The showcase is not there for the main purpose of funding a team, program, or organization.
I understand that college coaches sometimes get paid a fee to attend these showcases. They also get an advantage watching a lot of kids in a short time. They can only attend these showcases at certain times of the year according to the NCAA. Because of the plethora of these money making showcases, there is a watered down aspect starts to arise at these showcases. Many may not have the talent you think there is. Lastly, in some cases, kids go to these showcases, tired, not at their peak and try to impress the college scouts with their “stuff” and they can get injured. 80% of a college coach’s job is recruiting. If you have talent we will find you. It’s our job and we like our job, a lot. We want to find you when another coach can’t. Let me relate to you the last showcase I went to for my 15 year old son. We traveled six hours by car to
. He played four games against the same
level of competition that he normally played against in his ‘elite” travel
After the first game when everyone was headed back to the hotel I told my wife I was going to hang around for awhile. I watched every team I could get to, a total of about 600 kids. I saw two children that I considered to be D1 material. So, in essence, the other 598 families were paying for these two kids to be seen. I then went and found the person running the tournament. I told him I was a college hockey coach and would like to meet some of the other college coaches there scouting. He immediately asked me to sign in. There were six other coaches on the list and I did not recognize
any D1 schools. He played in four games against four teams with about the same scores as there was in his normal league. We paid $600.00 to go to
and sit and watch soccer for the weekend. I understand
that some people refer to this as their social lives and have and maintain
friendships after the children stop playing. But the point of this article is
this was supposed to be a showcase for college coaches and perspective student
athletes for college bound children. It was not. It was the last showcase we
went to. As a side to this story it was also the last season my son played
travel soccer, and he still played and started for his high school team his
senior year. Virginia